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KATHY - the church is not a building

Monday, November 3rd, 2008

 

never doubt that a small, group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. – margaret mead

i am very excited for our new saturday evening space for the refuge weekend gathering at the crescent grange hall!  it really couldn’t be more “us”—the wrong side of the railroad tracks, in the old part of town where the aging houses next to junkyards next to nice office buildings. it’s definitely the right metaphor.  a real unexpected, unlikely gem. a gift from God to our dear community. a lovely, worn farmhouse with charm & space & a sort of unspoken sign on the door that says “i am meant to be used again. fill me up with love & laughter & food & friends.” after our first gathering this past saturday night we could all feel the warmth and hope of what could be.  

sky housebut i want to remind everyone, remind myself, that the refuge would have been perfectly fine without this space.  you see, the church is always the people, not a building.  and people committed to God & each other, no matter where they gather—houses, coffee shops, golf courses, apartment buildings, weird rented spaces—are what create the church, the beautiful, diverse, wild and wonderful body of Christ.  the conversations that happen during the week, the phone calls, the emails, the prayers, the tangible help & hope that gets passed on in big & small ways, the neighbors that are loved, the scriptures that are shared, the words of encouragement, the serving, the giving, the learning, the growing, the falling down & getting back up, the grace, the truth, Christ’s love made real—that’s the church.  

what can sometimes happen in moments like this is we start to think that all the action of the refuge now happens on saturday nights in a cool spot that will hopefully start to feel a lot more like home.  that that is “church.”  nah, that’s just a gathering.  a wonderful beautiful gathering of other folks on the journey, sure. a time to soak in God & hope & love in a really intentional way, sure.  a sweet respite from the craziness of our lives, sure.  but real church, real community, real life will continue to happen the other 6 ¾ days of the week.  

i love what God is up to & am so excited for our future. i hope we dream big dreams. i hope we try all kinds of crazy things. i hope lives are somehow changed because of God’s touch through us.  i hope God stirs up passion for new ideas and gives us courage to give them a try.  i hope together we learn more about what it means to be people & places of refuge. i hope the world’s a little better because of us.  i hope we can keep bringing the good news to hard places.  i hope for more and more Hope that could never, ever be contained within 4 walls once a week!  

God, in this upcoming year help us learn more and more deeply what it means to be the church. 

 

the refuge - off the map live photos

Monday, October 27th, 2008

off the map logoit was a great couple of days at the born again church tour in denver october 17th & 18th.  thanks everyone who helped pull this off.  here are some pictures capturing some of the moments shared together there.  we hope that in the months to come that we continue to dream and experiment and live out some of our hopes for all the church can be.

photos by Jennifer Herrick here. more photos to follow.

The Refuge - Blessed are the…

Tuesday, September 30th, 2008

heart on woodthis is the liturgy we wrote & have been using each week at our sunday gatherings focusing in on the beatitudes & the sermon the mount.  as the final line says, may these words sink deeply into our hearts, our lives in ways we never dreamed: 

 

blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 

God, we need you.

we’re at the end of our rope. we can’t do it. 

without you, we’re empty, un-filled.

ALL-  God, help us realize how much we need you.

 

blessed are those who mourn,  for they will be comforted. 

sometimes we are afraid to feel, we don’t know what to feel

we’re too tired.  we’re too afraid.  what if it starts & never stops? what if they use it against me?  what if i can’t?  what if i don’t know how?

ALL - God, help us learn to feel

 

 blessed are the meek,  for they will inherit the earth. 

we want to be the one who isn’t always butting into the front of the line, who isn’t demanding &self-centered.

we want to move more slowly, so that maybe we can see better

we want to be the car that changes lanes letting others merge onto the road.

the one who asks but is willing to wait.

ALL- God help us learn what it means to be gentle in a harsh world.
 

blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,  for they will be filled. 

we want to stand up for what is right, take action for our friends

reach out to those that have been pushed aside and down

be a defense

ALL- God help us be bold and advocate for others
 

blessed are the merciful,  for they will be shown mercy. 

we want caring hearts. compassionate hearts.  forgiving hearts. soft hearts.

hearts that can hold the breaking heart of another

hearts that offer grace, hands that offer help

ALL- God help us be vessels of mercy and grace
 

blessed are the pure in heart,  for they will see God. 

help our pride erode to humility 

peel away our hardness

discard the  moldy, unusable pieces, then unveil the deep inside, that which matters most

ALL– God remove what’s getting in the way

 

blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. 

teach us to forgive

to be healing balm in places of strife.

to  lay down our guns & our need to win

to keep walking alongside the prisoners of war when we want to hide behind the barracks

ALL – God, help us be known as promoters of peace.  

 

blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

help us remember that you know what it feels like to be misunderstood, mocked, rejected

for we feel like rejects

we have tried to be more like you and we only feel less.  and lost

teach us how to count this as gain when every part of us thinks we’re failing.

ALL – God, may their misunderstanding of us mean that we have a better understanding of you.

God, turn us upside down and inside out.  may these ways, sink deeply into our hearts, our lives in ways we’d never dreamed.

ALL - AMEN.


we are the refuge

Monday, August 11th, 2008

hands

this past sunday as we wrapped up our summer series on community, we wrote some identity poems related to the refuge & also ourselves. we thought we’d share the refuge ones so everyone could listen in on our heart. the first one was a community effort—each table contributed particular lines to the poem. the second one was written by sage and powerfully read during the sharing. both reflect the heart and ever-evolving identity of the refuge.

*****

we are seeking & welcoming friends

we wonder where this journey is taking us

we hear hopefulness from people we love & a fruitful silence

we see healing & chaos

we want true community, acceptance, humor, fun, realness & to make a difference

we are seeking & welcoming friends

we pretend that we’re cool, that nothing’s wrong

we feel known, uncomfortable, deeply connected, exposed, accepted, appreciated, safe & loved

we touch many lives & pressure points

we worry in our attempt to include the marginalized of society that we’ll turn our hearts back on all others

we cry with each other as we share our stories

we are seeking & welcoming friends

we understand that we don’t have all the answers

we say that relationships are intentional

we dream a lot, that we’d be a truly loving community, real people and love Jesus

we try to live our dreams

we hope for twinkle twinkle little star (stella’s addition), community & connection, honesty, equality, to be embracing, an extension of God’s love, to always be stretching outward, transparent to the world, to foster a deep sense of awareness of each person’s value.

we are seeking & welcoming friends

we are the refuge.

–written by the refuge community 8.11.08

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we are loving & chaotic

we wonder if we can really love one another

we hear God’s voice in and among us

we see God’s hand at work in us

we want a place to rest from our wandering

we are loving & chaotic

we pretend to be understanding & welcoming

we feel wrapped in community

we touch hands as brothers & sisters in Christ

we worry that we can’t do this

we cry when we fall short

we are loving & chaotic

we understand that God’s love is real

we say that Jesus makes everything possible

we dream they kingdom come, thy will be done

we try to make that happen for everyone

we hope to bring God’s kingdom for all

we are loving & chaotic

we are the refuge

- sage harmos, 8.11.08

KATHY – camping: church at its finest!

Monday, July 7th, 2008

campfireas you all know by now, i have a lot of issues with “church.” i love love love people gathered together in all kinds of ways to learn and practice loving God, our neighbors, ourselves. it’s the programs, the inauthenticity, the power b.s., the unnaturalness of it all that i can do without. i believe wholeheartedly, in every fabric of my being, that without community and deep connection with other people (whatever that may look like) we will never be able to live out the ways of Jesus and experience the fullness of relationship with God. i am fairly convinced typical church systems that feed inspiration addiction provide a false sense of spiritual maturity where learning “about” certain things becomes enough and we are never forced to actually be in meaningful intimate connection with the people we sit next to week after week. lives need to be rubbed up against other lives. that’s where the real action happens and we learn what it means to really love & be loved.

at the refuge, we are not trying to be anti-institutional for the sake of being anti-institutional. it’s just that we are dreamers. we dream that the body of Christ would look much more like a family than a business or a production. after spending last weekend at the 3rd annual refuge camping trip at jackson lake i walked away with this thought: church should probably be a lot more like camping! really, it has all of the elements that i love & value about “church” the way i dreamed it could be:

• all the cover-ups are stripped away - camping is a great equalizer. a tent’s a tent. no one cares about what you wear or what you look like. every person trying to pull themselves up on a tube in the middle of the lake looks awkward, no matter how much money they make or what job they have. in a good way, camping (especially when there’s water because that means bathing suits!) exposes us in a safe container because everyone else is equally exposed, too.

• everyone shares - that is one of my favorite things, when we are camping there’s an incredible sharing of “stuff” with each other. we had 14 sites all to ourselves and there was zigzagging all over the place… ”need an extra tent? want some eggs? i’ve got some bacon! come over to our place and we’ll cook up the food.” needs get met. openhandedness abounds.

• conversations flow - fire, time and space creates a container for relaxed & meaningful conversation. no one’s rushed, hurried, has an agenda, or always has the floor.

• playing & more playing - little kids playing with big kids, big kids making new friends, games around the picnic table, balls getting tossed, splashing in the water, silly songs around the campfire, people trying things they don’t normally try, laughter everywhere. that’s worship.

• the little ones are a part - kids & grownups together is really important to me. we’re supposed to know each other’s kids & look after them & help them & love them instead of keeping them safely put away while we “do our thing”. when we’re camping, we’re all together, eyes and hearts and hands all over the place making sure everyone’s known & taken care of.

• relaxed instead of rushed - hurriedness is what messes with community. rushing in, rushing out, going from one thing to the next and never being able to be present in the moment. the stress of time and responsibilities and pressures really rob us of peace & connection. when we’re camping, we’re chill. we’re present. we’re unwound instead of wound up. we’re glad to be here instead of thinking where else we have to go next.

i could go on and on about all the cool parallels and i am sure i missed some other big ones, but you get the point. yeah, to me, camping really is “church” at its finest.
here’s a photo collage from our time together:

our camping collage

graffiti art!

Monday, June 30th, 2008

graffiti wall

a few saturdays ago the refuge hosted a graffiti art workshop at joshua station, our friends near downtown denver who provide transformational housing for struggling families. it was a perfect spot for our gathering and sam trujillo, who works for milehigh ministries (the umbrella organization for joshua station), did an amazing job facilitating a wild and crazy afternoon. we had 30 participants, about 1/2 from the refuge, 1/2 from joshua station, with a wide range of ages (from 8 to 69 years old!) and backgrounds (the best part). the common thread that wove us together was a desire to express ourselves in ways that some of us aren’t used to, to connect with our artistic side, our story. sam used a great combination of videos, conversation, and all kinds of mediums to help people connect. one tool he used was a template for an “i am” poem that people could use to add to their piece. you can check out the template here if you want to give it a try on your own.

you can check out a gallery of pictures from the afternoon here

and some other blog posts with some highlights: here and here

we definitely hope to offer more experiences like this in the future so people of all ages, backgrounds & spiritual journeys can have an opportunity to express themselves through art. thanks, sam!

the refuge Xperience

Monday, May 12th, 2008

in november we hosted a really fun evening for people outside of the refuge to get a taste of our community & mission called refuge Xperience. it was an evening of creative conversation, drama, dinner, and communion. part of this evening was showing a dvd produced by tom herrick & paul romig-leavitt that shared a bit of who we were. it all starts with one of our favorite events the refuge hosted last october-dialogue instead of debate, the conversation between an atheist & a christian. since this dvd was produced, the refuge continues to evolve, but it gives everyone a taste and we didn’t want to keep it to ourselves (it took us a while to get it up on youtube!):

authentic community

Sunday, February 10th, 2008

“we have all known the long loneliness, and we have found that the answer is community” - dorothy day

there’s no question, at the refuge, we believe spiritual transformation happens through community. it is not the only way. there are lots of ways to experience God, grow in our relationship with God, and learn a lot about God. Jesus transforms in many wonderful ways. but we also wholeheartedly believe that the greatest work of our spiritual journey will happen through relationships, true authentic community. the reason why this usually gets pushed to the bottom of the list when it comes to church programming is that it is by far the hardest thing to do. lasting, true authentic community doesn’t come in a contrived program. it can’t be talked into people. it has to be created, cultivated. it is messy, it is scary, it is unpredictable. most of us aren’t that great at it. plus, the selling points aren’t the most marketable. in fact, there are a few 100% guarantees when it comes to authentic community:

- you will be annoyed
- it will be time consuming
- you will get hurt and frustrated

100% guaranteed. there’s some good odds! but we do believe there are so many upsides to actually giving your heart, time, self to the body of Christ and allowing others in instead of just protecting yourself by only “serving others” or staying on the fringes. we believe that authentic community will be the place where we learn grace. where we learn to give it. where we learn to receive it. grace can never be theoretical. that is why no amount of sermonizing or scripturizing can teach it. it’s only through authentic community that we can come radically in touch with our humanness, our brokenness, our selfishness, our desire to be loved and truly known (even though it can be terrifying).

so the refuge is deeply committed to creating the kind of sacred space where authentic community has the greatest chance of actually happening. a few weeks ago when we talked about the spiritual discipline of incarnational relationships, sam & tiera trujillo shared with us 7 marks of authenticity in a community. (check out the blog sam edits geography of grace–it has some great stuff on it). these are marks we desire of our culture. they are the things we will keep at the center of our community as guides for our future. they will help us not lose sight of why we do certain things even though they can be annoying.

7 marks of authenticity in a community:

1. be real.
“the prayer that precedes all other prayers is may the real I meet the real Thou.” C.S. Lewis

no need to hide. just put it out there, the real story. the body of Christ should be the one place where you don’t need to pretend.

2. risk.
“test the possibility that in one’s own voice is the voice of another’s suppressed longing.” Krasner and Joyce

our hope is that we will continue to create spaces at our large and smaller gatherings where people experiment with crazy ways of connecting with God, each other. that there’s always this little degree of discomfort that keeps us moving, considering, challenged instead of remaining passive. at the end of the year we want to look back on some things we’ve tried and say “well, we will never do that again, but we’re glad we tried.” we’re not trying to push people because we are sadistic (yes, we know it can sometimes feel that way!) we just think communities need to be willing to experiment and try instead of only rely on “the sure thing that sells and makes people feel good.”

3. question.
“the beautiful answer is always preceded by the more beautiful question.” e.e. cummings

a place to question, a place to doubt, a place to not get certain answers crammed down your throat. this is very important to us.

4. dialogue.
dialogue is the reminder that something can happen not merely “to” us and “in” us but also “between” us. Martin Buber

authentic community can never be created when we aren’t talking together, back and forth. when only leaders get to talk and everyone else just sits and listens. conversation is where the action happens and sometimes we don’t notice it until we think about it later.

5. honor holy failure.
“my idea of God is not a divine idea. it has to be shattered time after time. He shatters it himself…this shattering is one of the marks of his presence.” C.S. Lewis

well clearly we are really good at failing. we honor it. our motto: “at least we tried.”

6. laugh.
“God gave us an imagination to console us who we aren’t, and a sense of humor to console us for who we are.” Francis Bacon

laughing at ourselves. laughing and crying at the same time. it’s our favorite thing. no need to take ourselves so darn seriously. life’s too hard without a lot of laughing.

7. love one another.
“beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. ” 1 John. 4:11

that’s the big idea. without love, we are nothing. talking about love means little. actually practicing loving the unlovable, letting others love the unlovable parts of us. passing on love to our neighbors. now that’s the real deal.

sophisticated toddlers

Tuesday, January 1st, 2008

we always say at the refuge that we are just babies at this. we are less than 2 years old, toddlers, really, when it comes to planting a new community. a few months ago we met a pastor of a sweet little church in east denver who told us that his congregation was pretty young—only 22 years old! it made us laugh because we always think we’re so far behind. then we remember that most of our friends who are pastoring other communities have been at it a long time; they are 8, 9, 10 years ahead of us. sometimes we get really distorted thinking, kind of like the toddler or preschooler who thinks they should be able to do something that the older kids are doing. they get frustrated because they just…can’t. there are many things we’d love to do and try and experience but we just aren’t quite ready for it yet. maturity takes too long!

but at the same time, the crazy part of the refuge is that even though we are young, just babies learning to walk, we also have this incredibly weird sophistication when it comes to connection, community, love. like little kids who naturally play and laugh and make up games we don’t have foundations or structures that we “should have” according to the church planting books, and boy do we suck at raising money, but something really wild and beautiful is happening. In a strange way, it is often the adult world that spoils the wonder and joy of being a child. no amount of planning or money can produce the uninihabited joy of children.

so who knows what 2008 will bring. remember, we’re just learning to walk. this means lots of bruises, bumps, maybe even stitches. we’re glad we’re in this together. as we wrap up this year and look forward to the next, here are some of our milestones, and boo-boos of 2007:

boo-boos:
…wrap things in bubble wrap and hand them out in the service
…have a spontaneous service project instead of a worship service (we will continue to want to serve, but maybe give folks a heads up!)
…a december baptism, outside, at nightinvite cupid’s brother to valentine’s day party and let him leave his shirt off
…can you say “technical difficulties”?
…underestimating how long it would take to finish a basement!
…sneaking gogurts into joshua station & assuming the sugar wouldn’t affect the kids

milestones:
…embracing that the refuge will always have “technical difficulties”
…inviting jim & casper to come to denver for dialogue instead of debate
…a wonderful Christmas present—news from the IRS we got our 501c3!
…inviting mrs. claus back to the refuge for the single mom’s “tea” (only to discover she’s as bitchy as ever)
…the 2nd annual refuge camping trip – glorious baptisms & crazy tube rides
…finishing marna’s basement for future single moms to find refuge
…including creative expressions of communion each week as part of our culture
…mastering the fine art of serving a special meal to the residents of joshua station without dessert.
we would love your memories, so help us out, what are some of your memories of 2007?

brian mclaren shares with the refuge!

Sunday, November 11th, 2007

the following was part of our november 2007 vertigo, the monthly refuge ezine (if you are interested in subscribing, click here). we have always known we wanted the refuge to be a missional community, deeply committed to global & local social justice. we want to stay connected to bigger conversations that are happening in the world because there are great thinkers out there stirring the pot & causing others to consider hard & challenging issues on how to live out the ways of Jesus in the midst of this broken & crazy world. one of those voices is brian mclaren. some of you have read his books, that include a new kind of christian, a generous orthodoxy, the secret message of Jesus. a former english teacher & pastor, he has been a key voice in challenging christians to consider how we can live the Kingdom of God now. he is booked solid for 2008 on a tour for his new book, everything must change (a worth read for sure!), but somehow in the midst of his crazy schedule he took time to answer the refuge’s request for an interview.

your books & teachings have been making a pretty big impact on the current christian culture. you are stirring the pot and causing people to really question what they believe about life as a christian. why do you think the message you are sharing has become so powerful?

At this point, I think my work has been more provocative than powerful. I hope it will be powerful in the sense of motivating more and more people first to see, then to care, then to act, and then to make a difference. Here’s what I mean: I was talking to Jim Wallis the other day, and we were talking about the change in the wind that we both feel - that more and more Christians are seeking an integral or holistic understanding of the faith, one that puts personal spirituality and social justice together. But then Jim added, “But 30,000 more people died yesterday from preventable diseases. Until that number goes down to 20,000, and 10,000 and 1,000, we aren’t really making the difference that’s needed.”

For that to happen - for us to move from thought to feeling to faith-in-action to Spirit-empowered-change - it takes groups like The Refuge working all this out on the ground in their neighborhoods, which is why I’m so thrilled to be talking with you.

I think that we all can feel a change is in the air. Something is trying to be born. Something is trying to take root. We feel the Holy Spirit groaning deep inside us, refusing to let us be complacent and satisfied. I hope my books are a little shred of those groanings, and that they’re resonating with the groanings other people feel.

what do you think isn’t working too well in the contemporary american church? what still amazes you about it?

I like the way you phrase that. I think a lot is going well, so uch really. But at the end of the day, I think Dallas Willard is right: we have a “great omission” in our “great commission” which means that we’re making Christians (or born-agains or charismatics or Baptists or Pentecostals or whatever) but not necessarily making disciples of Jesus the Liberating King. To put it more strongly, we’re better at making Christian consumers than we are at forming love-and-good-works-producers.

But a lot does still amaze me … a little Anglican church in Canada where people faithfully come to say and mean the Lord’s prayer and celebrate the eucharist and confess their sins and be sent out “to love and serve the Lord” - it’s a small miracle, really. A big megachurch in the US that’s mobilizing it’s people to address racism and poverty. A pentecostal super-megachurch in El Salvador that started a recycling center because they believe the Holy Spirit not only produces healings but also environmental responsibility. There are ten thousand beautiful stories like these.

Jesus had a lot to say about injustice, power, and the least of these. why do you think it’s been so easy for us to ignore injustices both locally and globally? what do you think we’re afraid of?

One of the big reasons is that we’ve been taught to read the Bible in special ways that blind us to a lot of its power. We’ve been taught to spiritualize and segment and hyper-analyzie and focus on trees and miss the forest. And I think you’re right when you imply that fear is a big part of it.

Partly, I think we’re afraid of change. But before we even get to that, I think we’re afraid of being criticized. A lot of our religious communities run on fear: ask the wrong question and you’re seen with suspicion. Don’t be satisfied with the standard answer and you’re out the door, with people talking about you behind your back. This atmosphere of fear accounts for a lot of our religious behavior, I think.

the title of this newest book is everything must change: Jesus, global crisis & a revolution of hope. why must everything change? what do you think is going to happen if we don’t change?

Jesus taught us to pray, “Your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” So, wherever we see God’s will not being done … wherever God’s dreams for our earth aren’t coming true … that’s where change is needed. Of course, it doesn’t happen all at once: I’m not calling for violent revolution or careless insurgency. How the change happens is as important as that it happens: it happens quietly, but steadily, like yeast working in bread, like light penetrating darkness, like salt flavoring or preserving food, like fertilizer transforming soil so gardens can thrive.

In the book, I describe the peculiar and rather startling situation we’re now in: we’ve developed a large population, a huge rate ofglobal consumption and waste production, and a complex and somewhat fragile economic system supported by the most dangerous weapon systems in the history of history. This puts all of us at risk. I’d rather leave it up to readers’ imaginations to answer your question about what happens if we do nothing … because it’s not a pretty picture.

The good news is - and really, the book is about hope and good news -if we have faith as big as a sesame seed on a bagel, we can begin to turn things around. With God, nothing is impossible, and so mountains of injustice can be moved, and valleys of poverty can be filled in. I really believe that!

you travel a lot and see a depth & breadth of injustice in the world that many aren’t aware of. which injustices have gotten under your skin the most?

I suppose religious injustice comes to the surface first: religious people who use their holy texts - whether the Bible, the Torah, the Quran, or whatever - to legitimize the status quo or justify meanness. That makes me sick.

But beyond that, I’ve been thinking of economic injustice the most. I’ve been asking how can we turn capitalism around so that it becomes an engine not just of win-lose competition … us versus them, me versus you … but instead becomes a catalyst for collaboration, you and me together for the common good. I guess you’d call it capitalism with a conscience. I’m really inspired dreaming about an ethical buying movement, where we use the democracy of dollars to work for global social justice. Wouldn’t it be great to go into a store and find a code or rating on every product … so that we had the chance to choose products that were produced by means that are socially and environmentally sustainable? I really believe that’s something that we as people of faith could make happen, and it could make a real difference for billions of people.

we agree with you, that as Christians we have spent a lot of our time & energy in the wrong place–focusing on what we need to do to get to heaven, instead of thinking about how to live out the Kingdom here on earth. what are some ways you believe we can live the Kingdom now?

For Jesus, it starts with how we treat our neighbors. So you’re white and you’re getting on the bus or you’re walking into a party - where do you sit and who do you try to get to know? Another white person of your social class and race? Or do you specifically look for “the other” - the woman with a Muslim head scarf, or the kid with a bunch of tattoos, or the African American teenager standing in the corner? A smile on the sidewalk, an extra kind word in the check-out line … these small actions add up.

Of course, it’s an election year, and so we all need to take voting seriously. As I see it, as a follower of Jesus, I can’t simply vote my self-interest. I have to vote on behalf of the salmon and the warblers and the desert tortoises who don’t have anyone voting for them. I need to vote on behalf of the innocent kid in Iran who might be bombed pre-emptively if we elect a warrior president. I need to vote for the poor farmers in Sierra Leone - whose lives would be way better if we had a president dedicated to using American power as a good neighbor, not as an imperial power. That sort of thing comes to mind.

Ironically, for those of us who believe that heaven is a gift of grace, not something we have to work for or achieve … we of all people really don’t need to be preoccupied with that any more, so we should be of all people most free and ready to invest our lives for the least, the last, and the lost, as Jesus did.

In the book, I try to help people understand how to make a difference by looking at the world in terms of three interlocking systems - a prosperity system, a security system, and an equity system. I think that we can find ways to function in each of these systems according to kingdom-of-God values … and we can be agents of the kingdom in all our daily actions.

you are a spiritual activist, calling out some things that you believe are wrong with the system. how do you live out what God has layed on your heart even though the system doesn’t like it very much? does it make you angry, others’ responses to you, calling you a liberal heretic among other things? what do you do with your anger? how do you not get cynical? (we are taking notes)

If religion is the opiate of the masses, as Marx said, then cynicism is the opiate of intellectuals and the graveyard of activists who burn out. So you’re so wise to see the dangers of cynicism and bottled up anger - which turns to bitterness and ruins your ability to serve others in love. I don’t like being criticized, but I try to keep a few things in mind. First, as the singer Jackson Browne said, if you have a few real true friends, somehow all the other ones are easier to bear. So I cherish my friends as never before when I find a lot of people lining up as critics.

Second, I remember I’m a sinner, which normally isn’t very hard because I’m constantly proving the fact. The worst thing anyone has ever said about me isn’t as bad as what I know about myself, and nothing compared to what God knows about me. In this way, critics are what you could call “cruel friends” - they do you an immense service of helping keep you humble. Third, I try to remember that people who criticize me are just doing what they think is right. I’ve criticized a lot of people unfairly or in ignorance myself through the years, so how can I be angry at others for doing what I myself have done? Fourth, I remember Scriptures like Paul’s words in Colossians, where we’re called to forgive others as God has forgiven us in Christ, or I recall the Lord’s prayer, where Jesus teaches me to forgive as I would have God forgive me.

Fifth, I realize that I can learn a lot from criticism. Some is just mean, and you have to filter that out. But some criticism is constructive and a great learning opportunity. Sixth, I pray a lot. There’s a beautiful prayer someone gave me - it’s by a Serbian Orthodox bishop, and it’s called “prayer for enemies.” People can find it on my website …. brianmclaren.net. That prayer has helped me so much, I can hardly say. It begins, “Bless my enemies, O Lord. Even I bless them and do not curse them.” Then it lists all the ways enemies and critics help us. “Just as a hunted animal finds safer shelter than an unhunted animal does, so do I, pursued by enemies, find safer shelter in the shadow of your wings” - it’s really beautiful and inspiring and challenging.

But I wouldn’t be honest if I didn’t add that sometimes I just fail and the anger gets the best of me, and I start to get discouraged and overwhelmed. Often, at that point, God sends along some encouragement through a friend or a reader or someone I meet. So ultimately, I feel that I’m upheld by a power far greater than I can take any credit for.

there are all kinds of labels people have given to describe you–liberal, nonorthodox, neoevangelical. how would you like to be described?

Hmmm. I guess I’d like to be known as a fallible human being who is trying to learn to follow Jesus. As a human being, I have something in common with everyone in the world - Jewish, Muslim, atheist, Catholic, Protestant, whatever. And as someone trying to learn to follow Jesus, I am called to serve everyone and love them as my neighbor, which flows from loving the God who loves us all. But my guess is that this can’t be reduced to a functional label very well!

okay, last question, this is a practical one. the refuge is a rag-tag community of Christ-followers. we’re pretty messed up ourselves, without alot of resources, but we have huge hearts to impact the Kingdom. what are some things we could do as individuals to do to start a “revolution of hope” in a really practical way?

At the end of “Everything Must Change,” I really grapple with this question, and I decide not to come up with a list, but simply to focus on one thing: faith. I believe the most radical thing we can do is to disbelieve the many framing stories that are given to us, and believe the story given to us by Jesus.

If we have that shift in confidence, I think it will work out in a thousand really exciting ways. In fact, we’ll be developing a blog where people can share ideas about what they’re doing and how it’s going. And that will be a major function of the tour we’re doing early next year too - to help people dream together and share ideas.

Thankfully, there are so many great organizations that we can team up with. Amahoro-africa.org, floresta.org, sojo.net, emergentvillage.com, World Vision, the One Campaign and the MIcah Challenge are some of my favorites.

But let me just add one more practical idea. I think passionate people like you all could do something really interesting and enjoyable: throw parties for your neighbors. Just get people together. Have some games, help people get-acquainted, have some good food, wear name tags, share email addresses and phone numbers. Then the host could say something like this: “I’m really glad everyone came over, because I think we all feel that the world needs a lot of change, and I’m hoping we can try to be good neighbors for each other. In other words, we know the world needs a lot of change, and we can make a little start there by being the kind of neighborhood that would make the world a better place. That’s why we wanted to get everyone together, and if you have any ideas, I’m ready to help.” Then see if anyone has an idea. No prayers, no sermons, just an act of good will toward your neighbors. I think that if a bunch of us did this sort of thing, pretty soon people would be talking about God, because a good neighbor is a sign of the kingdom of God, at least I think that’s one thing Jesus was telling us.

brian mclaren is an author, speaker, pastor, and networker among innovative Christian leaders, thinkers, and activists. married to Grace, they have four young adult children. you can learn more about brian & organizations he is involved with at www.brianmclaren.net.

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