Comments on: JULIE - Choosing Celibacy

By: Deb Massey

Deb Massey — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 17:28:35 +0000

Hi Julie,
I so admire what you shared here. I wish I’d opened up to you more when I was struggling with this after my divorce. I know that God lets us know what is for our best, and still loves us when we chose less than His best, but oh, why are we ok with ripping ourselves off? Going after the brass ring, when gold is at hand? I did the single thing so terribly I chose to get married rather than continue to try (in my OWN strength - like that’s doable) Good thing Steve turned out to be the guy I hoped he was. And where he’s not, meh, neither am I! Love you girl, XO~Deb

By: karl

karl — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 02:28:56 +0000

i love the how complicated it all is sometimes. if only we could just lock little parts of ourselves away, take out sexuality for a fun time and then put it away again. but no, God has made us whole, an entire being and celibacy is a choice to integrate it all. you are a beloved sister, and i love your courage and tenacity! we are here to help you be the whole julie!
karl

By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 01:09:23 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing your sweet heart, friend. It is so beautiful.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 03:20:45 +0000

Thanks for sharing so beautifully from your heart on a vulnerable topic. I particularly resonated w/ your comments onlearning to nourish your self esteem in other ways beyond sexual relationships.

By: Marna

Marna — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 15:04:57 +0000

Julie, there’s so much wrapped up in the choice of celibacy: denying oneself the physical affection we long for now not only because of the void but also out of the desire to re-write the damage from our past unhealthy relationships. It’s such a hard thing. I’m with you on this one, friend.

By: Tammy

Tammy — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 23:48:19 +0000

Julie, thank you for your courage and example! I admire your strength in this decision! May His Glory be revealed to you in this sacrifice of self for your children and community. I sometimes think a picture of a bride with combat boots on depicts amazing power…but, I’m starting to think that a picture of a mom ‘fighting’ for her kids probably depicts it even more!!! What a blessing you are to your children! What a blessing you are to The Refuge! You are a true prayer warrior!!!

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 18:01:16 +0000

Julie,
Thanks so much for sharing. That’s the second time this week that I’ve heard the word “Sacred” come up in conversation in reference to sexuality. Love that there are people like you that see the beauty of this sacredness. I respect your authenticity in pursuing what “Living The Way” is.
Love, Mary