Comments on: KATHY - the need for a third way http://blog.therefugeonline.org/2008/12/01/kathy-the-need-for-a-third-way/ Thu, 17 May 2012 22:47:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: kathyescobar http://blog.therefugeonline.org/2008/12/01/kathy-the-need-for-a-third-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1022 kathyescobar Thu, 11 Dec 2008 23:09:15 +0000 http://www.blog.therefugeonline.org/?p=129#comment-1022 stacy - yeah, that's who i'm first apt to direct it to, too.... i - thanks for your honesty and sharing a bit of your story. yeah, fleeing is so innate, especially for those of us with abuse in our history. it is so hard to do real, true, healthy, intimate relationships and will require God's help & courage to stay in instead of default to fleeing. everytime we flee we miss the beauty of what could be. peace, kathy stacy - yeah, that’s who i’m first apt to direct it to, too….

i - thanks for your honesty and sharing a bit of your story. yeah, fleeing is so innate, especially for those of us with abuse in our history. it is so hard to do real, true, healthy, intimate relationships and will require God’s help & courage to stay in instead of default to fleeing. everytime we flee we miss the beauty of what could be. peace, kathy

]]> By: i. http://blog.therefugeonline.org/2008/12/01/kathy-the-need-for-a-third-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1021 i. Wed, 10 Dec 2008 17:14:36 +0000 http://www.blog.therefugeonline.org/?p=129#comment-1021 Kathy, Thanks for talking about fighting and fleeing. I am guilty of fleeing. Recently, I have spent a lot of time with God asking why I flee because I don’t want to harm others anymore. As always in his most loving way, he brought someone into my life who helped me look at my past and how it’s still haunting my present. I was sexually abused when I was nine. That child was pure in heart, trusting, loving, playful, joyful. After the abuse happened that little girl could no longer trust. When rejection from relationship happens today, the nine year old in me is scared to death and flees. But now I can see why and I have hope of changing and healing the child so the adult in me can stay in relationships with mercy and compassion for myself and others. I agree Jesus way is the way. God has shown me a different way to look at others now. Not who they are on the outside with their armor but that they too may have a heart of pain like mine. For me to experience Jesus’ way he had to show me my heart and I am so grateful. The Refuge is a beautiful place of intimacy in relationships that are up close and personal and real. Kathy,
Thanks for talking about fighting and fleeing. I am guilty of fleeing. Recently, I have spent a lot of time with God asking why I flee because I don’t want to harm others anymore. As always in his most loving way, he brought someone into my life who helped me look at my past and how it’s still haunting my present. I was sexually abused when I was nine. That child was pure in heart, trusting, loving, playful, joyful. After the abuse happened that little girl could no longer trust. When rejection from relationship happens today, the nine year old in me is scared to death and flees. But now I can see why and I have hope of changing and healing the child so the adult in me can stay in relationships with mercy and compassion for myself and others.
I agree Jesus way is the way. God has shown me a different way to look at others now. Not who they are on the outside with their armor but that they too may have a heart of pain like mine. For me to experience Jesus’ way he had to show me my heart and I am so grateful.
The Refuge is a beautiful place of intimacy in relationships that are up close and personal and real.

]]> By: Stacy http://blog.therefugeonline.org/2008/12/01/kathy-the-need-for-a-third-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1015 Stacy Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:56:00 +0000 http://www.blog.therefugeonline.org/?p=129#comment-1015 I really enjoyed reading this, as the road less traveled is always so good to point out. The part that really struck me, though was "who might you have a tendency to respond in violence to? is it yourself?" Yikes. I am so mean to me, and the third way leads me to extend the same grace to me that I need to be giving away.. I really enjoyed reading this, as the road less traveled is always so good to point out. The part that really struck me, though was “who might you have a tendency to respond in violence to? is it yourself?” Yikes. I am so mean to me, and the third way leads me to extend the same grace to me that I need to be giving away..

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